Death, funerals, grieving and the associated rituals vary from culture to culture. This episode explores the differences and similarities as to how Americans handle end of life and grieving vs. how Congolese do. Though death is much more prevalent in Congo, they don’t prepare for it for cultural reasons. Then, when someone does die, the question of “who” caused the death must be explored, even if we would explain it away due to an illness or tragic accident. Americans suppress their grief while Congolese express their grief with considerable intensity. My thesis for this episode was to explore the differences in rituals, and also to determine if Congolese move past the loss more quickly than Americans, and if so, “why”? Three Congolese are interviewed for this episode, along with a Funeral Director from Southern California. Add to that a fantastic story about a most unusual and adventurous funeral service. You will learn some interesting information about funerals in D.R. Congo, and learn how to move past your grief. Thanks to Segbewi Mobali, Motese Moyu, Talabisa Dawena, Becky Lomaka, and Roger Eales for their contributions to this episode.
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Good story flow. A Congolese business card might indicate “ Crier for hire”. The Congolese widow becoming destitute due to family members claiming her property was very sad.
I like the “Crier for Hire”…good one Sir Richard!!
Great episode Jeff. I thought it was interesting to hear that they place blame on someone when the death is of a person younger than 70 or 80. I thought your Dad shared a great story – glad they didn’t have to lift the dead body into the new larger box. I liked the parallel with the Jewish culture at the time of Jesus – the hiring of professional mourners. I thought you did a great job of exploring all facets of death and the major differences (communal vs individual)